The Joy of Co-creation – Even Unwanted Things

Have you ever been the source or the conduit through which another’s wantings have been manifested? Have you ever given someone a present to which they exclaimed, “Oh my gosh, how did you know? It’s exactly what I’ve been asking for?” Have you ever invited a friend over for a last-minute dinner gathering and have her say, “I am so glad you called. I was just thinking about how nice it would be to have dinner with some friends?”

It’s a wonderful feeling. There is a sense of validation, a recognition of our interconnectedness.

But what about those times when we are the source or the conduit through which another’s “don’t wants” are manifested? This morning I had that experience and it awakened a new awareness about the process.

Occasionally I sublet my office to practitioners who don’t have their own space, or have an out of town office and want to offer their services to clients in Sebastopol. This morning was one of those times.

Since my wife and daughter are out of town, and my office was going to be unavailable to me this morning, I decided to play hooky and spend the morning at Harbin Hot Springs. It was a wonderful morning, and I’ll have much to write about from the experience.

But sometime just after Noon, I had a sudden realization that I had forgotten to leave the keys to the office out for Barbara. My immediate reaction was one of “you idiot Ed. How could you have forgotten?”

I sat and stewed for a few moments, and then caught myself. Before the realization, I had been in a space of total relaxation and connection. I had been feeling “tuned in, tapped in, and turned on,” as Abraham says. And now, here I was, crashed down into frustration, judgment, and even anger at myself for having forgotten to leave the keys. This would not do!

So I went back to the pools, got in the hot water, and asked for a return to connection, to acceptance and understanding. It was not long before I had my “aha” moment. I understood that I was not the cause of this unwanted manifestation, but rather the co-creator. I was the conduit through which the Universe chose to provide Barbara with what she was asking for through her vibrational offering.

There is no way that I could know what vibrational offering Barbara was putting out this morning. Perhaps she woke up in a bit of a funk and didn’t feel like getting out of bed. Perhaps she didn’t really enjoy working with this client and was hoping he would cancel. Perhaps she had lots of other stuff to do and felt overwhelmed at the prospect of driving to Sebastopol. Perhaps she was coming to realize that she doesn’t really like working in my office. Or, perhaps it was a simple case of attracting what she feared. I remember her saying, one Thursday morning when our paths crossed, something to the effect of, “I’m just afraid that if I don’t have my own set of keys, you’ll forget to leave them for me one day.”

The point is that I can’t know exactly what she was feeling and vibrating. But as I examined the situation from a place of calm, neutral awareness, I knew, with a strong certainty, that she must have been offering a vibration that said to the universe, “I don’t want to work with this client today in Ed’s office.”

This awareness made it much easier for me to be in a place of acceptance. I was able to see the beauty in the workings of the universe. I could understand how it is possible to feel joy at this amazing process of co-creation whether the creation is wanted or unwanted. For, in actuality, every creation is wanted. Every creation is a reflection of the vibrational offering of the person or people into whose lives it has come.

Now, before you all start shouting at me, I want to make it clear that this is not about abdicating responsibility for our actions. I absolutely did play a part in this situation. And I am absolutely going to take responsibility for it. In fact, I have already left a message for Barbara telling her that whatever financial compensation she offered her client, because of the inconvenience, would be deducted from the rent she pays in the future.

Now here’s the best part. When you accept that every creation is a co-creation you can begin to choose whether or not you want to be a conduit for unwanted experiences. Knowing how the universe works makes it possible to intend yourself into a place of co-creating only wanted things.

In other words, you can move yourself into a vibrational offering that causes you to cross paths only with people looking to attract their desires. When someone is vibrating at a frequency that is attracting lack, or unwanted events into their life, the universe will arrange for them to connect with someone else, not you.

How cool is that?

So here’s my new affirmation and intention:

I recognize that in all things I am a co-creator. I acknowledge the power of my co-creative essence and I choose to use that creative power to assist in the intentional manifestation of things and experiences that are consciously, joyously, desired. Today I choose to be a conduit through which the powerful, positive intentions of others may be manifested.

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      2 Responses to “The Joy of Co-creation – Even Unwanted Things”

      1. Edward Mills on August 15th, 2007 9:05 am

        Jennifer, in my experience and observation, it appears that there is a period of awakening awareness when our ability to stop the negative vibes is limited. As Barb mentioned in the comments on this post it’s quite a frustrating experience.

        The key, for me, is to be as accepting as possible with myself. Getting down on myself just serves to send me even deeper into that frustration. I also will engage in physical activity – run, hike, workout, etc. – meditate, connect with other deliberate creators, read or listen to inspiring people… and when all else fails, I’ll just give myself permission to ride out the cycle. I’ve been through enough of these cycles to know that the down side doesn’t last.

        I hope this helps.

      2. Jennifer on August 15th, 2007 4:10 am

        I have definately experienced both the good and bad vibes being attracted to me and knowing my part in that cycle. But, if you’re facing a negative vibe (complaining, stuck in a rut, unproductivity) how can you not attract more of the same and get out of the slump? Any ideas?

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