Being Right or Feeling Good

“It ain’t what you don’t know that gets you into trouble. It’s what you know for sure that just ain’t so.”

Mark Twain

You may have heard the phrase, “You can either be right or be happy.” And T. Harv Ecker is fond of reminding us that we “can be right or rich.”

As Deliberate Creators, we know that our primary goal is to Feel Good. And if you’ve spent any time comparing results, you’ve probably noticed that the pursuit of being right almost never leads to a good feeling.

Here’s a quick personal example. On Saturday, my wife, daughter and I were up at Harbin Hot Springs to celebrate my birthday. At the moment the clock struck 10:00 (the time that kids are allowed into the heart-shaped warm pool) Ella was ready to go. She was, in fact, ready before my wife and I were. While Melissa was over taking a shower I decided to sit Ella down in the water, on the top step while I got undressed.

Ella was happily splashing away and playing with one of her toys when Melissa returned. Apparently she did not share my faith in Ella’s ability to remain seated on that step while I got ready. She immediately went over and put a protective arm around Ella while simultaneously giving me one of “those” looks. If you’re married, you probably know what I mean by one of “those” looks! What ensued after that would not qualify as a positive energetic exchange.

She had her opinion, I had mine. No problem, right? Well, the problems start to come in when we both want to have it acknowledged that our opinion is “right.”

After we managed to all get into the pool, I went to my “neutral corner” and leaned back against the side, closed my eyes and began soaking up the soothing energy of the water on my body and the sun on my face. In that space I quickly recognized my need to have Melissa understand that I was “right.” I wanted her to recognize that Ella was capable of sitting on the step for 2-mintues without falling in.

The moment I entered the space of needing to be right I cut myself off from Source and from the positive feeling that accompanies that connection. It most definitely did NOT feel good to be battling over the best way to deal with Ella around the pool.

In reality, the truth, in this case, as in most instances of “I’m right, you’re wrong” is most likely somewhere in the middle. I probably give Ella a little too much freedom and Melissa is probably a bit overprotective. But that’s not the point.

The point is that if I want to feel good, I must let go of my desire to be right. Right is irrelevant to the Universe. Right does not make one bit of difference when it comes to feeling and vibration. And it is our vibrational offering that determines how the Universe responds to us. If needing to be right takes you out of a place of feeling good, then that need to be right is causing you to attract more of what you don’t want.

Here’s the bottom line: You can be right or you can feel good. When you’re right you will tend to attract people with whom you will need to battle to prove that you are right.

When you let go of needing to be right and allow yourself to stay anchored in a good feeling place you will naturally attract more good things into your life.

Which do you prefer?

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      2 Responses to “Being Right or Feeling Good”

      1. Dean on June 2nd, 2007 8:04 am

        Hi Ed,

        Thanks for this wonderful post. Since I recently came across your site, I’m finding lots of good articles here. I think I like feeling good to be better than being right. My EGO still likes to be right, but he’ll see the light.

      2. Edward Mills on June 2nd, 2007 2:23 pm

        Thanks Dean. Yes, it’s the age-old struggle between ego and higher self. It can be quite amusing to watch how those two go at it!

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