Holosync Update – Day 15

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Today is my fifteenth day using the Holosync Solution and my first, official, day listening to both The Dive and Immersion. I cheated on Sunday and listened to Immersion.

Here’s what’s been happening since the last update.

From Saturday through Monday morning I seemed to hit a bump in the road. I felt a bit scattered. My overall energy level was significantly lower than usual. In fact, on Sunday, after I cheated and listened to both recordings, instead of getting up, I laid down on the coach until my daughter awoke.

I also had an interesting physical symptom during that time: A major lump in my throat and constriction in my solar plexus. Clearly, my 3rd and 5th chakras were activated and asking for some attention.

While the Holosync probably enhanced the experience, I believe the activation came from the curriculum I taught at the Law of Attraction class last Thursday evening. It was all about getting into your heart and begnning to manifest from a place of compassion and universal, unconditional love. I even mentioned during the class that the students should be aware of resistance to this shift that might come up from the other chakras.

I’m pretty sure that’s what was happening with me.

Early Monday morning I went for a nice hike and that seemed to help me snap out of it.

My time in meditation with the Holosync has been interesting. For the past few days I have noticed an increase in the amount of mind chatter during my meditations. However, I have clearly been in a fairly deep trance state – even with the chatter – since every morning I have been surprised by the change in the recording indicating that five-minutes remain.

And every morning I have wanted to continue the meditation beyond the thirty minutes. That is an unusual experience for me. Even when I was meditating on a daily basis, it was a rare occurrence that I would want to meditate for more than thirty-minutes.

My experience this morning, however, was a bit different. The chatter was very noticeable and I found it difficult to enter that deep state of meditation. While the hour did not feel overly long, I was clearly aware of the time passing. I will be interested to see how long it takes for this chattering mind to calm down.

In addition to the morning meditation, I have used one of the bonus recordings, either Making Change Easy, and Super-Longevity, several afternoons. I find that these thirty-minute recordings are much better afternoon pick-me-ups than a cup of chai. These recordings help me drop very quickly and easily into a deeply relaxed state, and I come out of the meditation refreshed and ready to jump back into my work.

Overall, my state of well-being is well above what I would consider my normal state. Even waking up at 5:00am every morning, I feel energized throughout the day and have been going to bed at my usual time, an occasionally staying up quite late. (Late for me is past 11:00pm).

One very noticeable change is the awakening of my creativity. Again, while I believe the Holosync has something to do with this, I believe that my immersion into the blogging world, as well as the content of the classes I am currently teaching are major contributors to this awakening.

I find that my creative mind is working constantly. It has been, literally, impossible to write fast enough to keep up with the ideas that are flowing into my awareness. Most of the time this is a great thing.

However, I am becoming aware of the need to downshift at times. Certainly, before bed I need to make a concerted effort to calm my creative mind. There have been several nights when my mind has been so active, sharing wonderfully creative ideas with me, that it has taken an hour or more to fall asleep. And that is very unusual for me.

I’m going to start giving myself a fifteen – thirty minute meditation or simple wind-down period before bed. And I am definitely going to turn the computer off at least thirty minutes before bed.

Overall I am quite pleased with my Holosync experience thus far. I am curious to see what happens over the next few days with a full 60-minute morning meditation. I will most definitely keep you posted.

How to Beat Blogger’s Butt and Other Annoying Side Effects

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Lifehacker just turned me on to this great post on How to Exercise While Sitting At Your Computer over at WikiHow.com. Most of the advice is common sense, but even so, it’s always good to be reminded.

And there are a few surprise suggestions, such as:

Don’t sit still. Fidgeting is a good way to keep moving. Even something like tapping your foot. But don’t make too much noise–however you fidget, the repetitive noises may bother other people.

These tips are so good, I’m going to print them out and put them on my desk beside my computer. That way I might avoid the dreaded Blogger’s Butt Syndrome!

No Time To Grieve

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Yesterday morning, as I was getting Ella ready for pre-school, my wife came downstairs and, after our good morning hugs, began telling me about some stuff that had come up around her father’s recent passing. She had just realized that the next meeting of her women’s group would be on November 1st, the Day of the Dead.

There was obviously some intense emotional content present, and yet, my first thoughts were along the lines of, “I don’t have time for this now. I’ve got to finish getting Ella ready so that we can get to pre-school and meet the physical therapist for her appointment.”

What was I thinking? Melissa lost her father less than 3-weeks ago, and there I was expecting her to be able to channel her grief into “appropriate” times. After a brief and not very positive interchange I went upstairs to get dressed, and quickly recognized my insensitivity.

I got dressed, went downstairs and sat with Melissa and Ella, giving her the time and space she needed to explore what was happening for her. If we were late for Ella’s PT session, it would not be the end of the world. It turns out that Melissa just needed a couple of minutes of connection. Nothing more.

With a bit of perspective, it becomes obvious how completely unreasonable is is to expect someone who has lost a loved one to experience their grief on a ‘regular” schedule. And yet, this seems to be a fairly common belief.

I have had several clients recently who have lost parents. Their struggle has been around giving themselves permission to fully experience the depth of their sorrow. They have internalize this cultural belief system that says you get a set amount of time to grieve and then you should be “over it.”

Sorry. Grief doesn’t work that way. Grief is a very unpredictable experience. Some people experience most their grief soon after the passing of a loved one. Others go into a period of numbness immediately following the death. This can help them get through the funeral and family stuff that surrounds a death. But as that numbness begins to thaw, the grief begins to come up in unexpected ways, places and times. It can take weeks, months even years to fully experience and express the sorrow present when a loved one passes.

But in our culture of go, go, go, do, do, do, there is very little space for that type of experience. We have truly created a culture in which there is no time for grief. What are we saying about grief when your work gives you 2-weeks off for bereavement (if you’re lucky)?

I find it interesting that the question I’ve been getting a lot lately is, “Are things back to normal yet?” Back to normal? What is normal? And how could things ever be back to normal? Certainly for Melissa, her life will never be “normal” again. This experience has completely transformed her life and will continue to transform it in ways that she is only vaguely aware of right now.

There can be no return to normal after a loved one dies. And yet that seems to be the expectation of our culture.

Don’t fall for it. Don’t get caught in the trap of seeking “normal.” And don’t fall into the trap of encouraging someone you know to return to “normal” after they lose a loved one.

There’s a lot more to come on this topic so keep your eyes peeled.

Conversations with God Trailer is Available Online

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Steve Johnson of The Fast Lane just left a comment that the trailer for the upcoming Conversations with God movie is available.

The Conversations with God books (aff) had a major impact on my personal development when I read them almost ten years ago (and again many times since). My wife and I pulled liberally from Walsch’s discussion of wedding vows in book 2 (I believe) when we created our own vows.

You know that I’ll be seeing this movie when it comes out.

Law of Attraction Carnival 5 – Emotions

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Welcome to the October 24th edition of the Law of Attraction Carnival. The topic of this edition is The Role of Emotions in the Law of Attraction. We’ve got a great group of submissions, some directly related to the topic others a bit more tangentially related. But they’re all great and worth a read!

One of the most powerful aspects of the Law of Attraction is its focus on feelings as a primary mode of experiencing the world. The Law of Attraction teachings often speak of our “emotional guidance system.” The primary point of this is that our emotions provide us with a valuable source of information.

Even the so-called “negative” emotions provide us with powerful guidance: When we are feeling angry or depressed, or frustrated, or overwhelmed, these emotions are clear indicators that we are disconnected from our Source energy. When we are feeling emotions on the lower end of the emotional spectrum, we are, most likely, attracting more unwanted things into our life.

By paying attention to our emotions, we become clear about our point of attraction. In other words, are we attracting from a positive, connected, intentional state, or are we attracting by default, from a negative, resistant state? When we know where our point of attraction is, we can begin to take steps to consciously raise our point of attraction up the emotional scale.

So let’s take a look and see what some other folks have to say about emotions and the Law of Attraction.

Beverly Keaton, over at Embrace Your Gifts and Soar starts us off with an entry on Finding Peace Through Forgiveness. Often, forgiveness can provide a truly effective doorway into more positive emotional content and, therefore, a more positive point of attraction.

Patricia, at A Better You, once again has a great entry on How to Know Who You Are In About 20-Minutes. Her technique is very connected to emotional content. She gives us this insightful example: The other day my 15-month-old baby was walking and fell by our brick fireplace. She split her lip and it was bleeding. I think her tears hurt me more than her, because I rushed to comfort her and tell her it would be okay. As I held her, I reassured her that it would be “all better” soon. Suddenly she jumped up as if everything was fine, and took off running past the fireplace to play. I remember thinking, why can’t we do that in life? Get comfort, take courage, then try again. Over at The Fast Lane, Steve includes a great personal story in his entry The Incredible Power of Failure. What does failure have to do with emotions? What is it that makes us believe that failure is bad? Emotions, feelings, thoughts. Steve’s entry reminds us that failure is a very powerful teaching tool and motivator.

Fear and failure seem to go hand in hand. They are certainly connected. Over at Verve Coaching, Erek Ostrowski has this entry on Facing the Unknown. Erek reminds us of this wonderful quote from Richard Bach, “What the caterpillar calls the end of the world, the master calls a butterfly”.

That’s it for this edition of the Law of Attraction Carnival. To few past editions, please visit the Law of Attraction Carnival homepage.

The next carnival will be out on November 14th and the topic will be The Power of Intention. I bet we’ll have some amazing entries on that topic!

If you would like to submit an article please make sure you read the submission guidelines first. You’ll find them on the Law of Attraction Carnival homepage as well.

Top 100,000 blogs in Technorati

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Hey, I finally broke into the top 100,000 blogs at technorati. As of this moment I’m ranked #98,402! I know, I know. Set Your Intention But Don’t Keep Score. I’m not going crazy. I’m just celebrating a bit. Don’t keep score, yes. But there is value in acknowledging and celebrating milestones along the way to your intention.

When I first discovered Technorati back in August, I was ranked about 600,000. It has been fun watching my rank slowly go up. (Watching without keeping score).

It’s all about balance.

Thanks to all of you who have linked to Evolving Times. You’re making it happen!

Watch for the Law of Attraction Carnival coming out later today.  

Circle Lending A Powerful Debt Reduction Tool for Deliberate Creators

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Not too long ago, my wife and sat down and took a good, honest look at our financial situation. And I can assure you that what we saw was not a pretty sight! We have both been so focused on personal growth, that money has, in the past, been an afterthought, at best. And with that sort of attention, or inattention towards finances, it is not surprising that we now find ourselves faced with a significant amount of debt.

After some deep breaths and focused, joyful thoughts, we made a commitment to make money a more central focus in our lives. Among others, we set the intention to pay off our credit cards and begin our journey towards financial freedom. This intention marked a major shift for both of us.

As a serious student of the Law of Attraction I’m aware of the power of intention, but it is still an amazing experience to witness the ways in which the Universe responds to clear intentions. In this case, the first unexpected response was a gift from a family member that allowed me to pay off a big chunk of my debt.

And then, out of the blue – that phrase takes on a whole new meaning when perceived from a Law of Attraction perspective – a friend offered to loan us the money needed to pay down all of our personal debt.

Needless to say, our appreciation was and continues to be huge. When we set our intention to be debt-free, beyond our repayment plan, we did not have any clear ideas about how we would achieve it. We just knew that by setting the intention and being in a space of allowing that the Universe would conspire to assist us in ways we could never have dreamed of!

And we have seen the dramatic results of that intending and allowing.

Circle Lending Keeps it all clean

In preparing this loan, we wanted to be very clear, clean and legal. Our friend was loaning us a significant amount of money, more than he had ever loaned out before. We wanted him to feel comfortable. And we wanted to be completely clear about this loan. The last thing we wanted was for this to get in the way of our friendship. So I went online to investigate ways to create legal loan documents between friends.

In preparing this loan, we wanted to be very clear, clean and legal. Our friend was loaning us a significant amount of money, more than he had ever loaned out before. We wanted him to feel comfortable. And we wanted to be completely clear about this loan. The last thing we wanted was for this to get in the way of our friendship. So I went online to investigate ways to create legal loan documents between friends.In my search, I discovered a very cool company called
Circle Lending (aff)
that sets up official, legal, loans between friends and family members.

Our experience with Circle Lending has been totally positive. Their website is full of good information. There is an effective loan calculator on their site that allows you to experiment with different types of loans and different interest amounts in order to create a loan that will work best for you.

We chose a graduated loan with several “steps.” This will allow us to significantly reduce our credit card payments up front so that we can begin an aggressive savings program. And as the loan repayment amount grows, the income from each of our businesses will continue to grow as well allowing us to continue to save aggressively and establish passive streams of income.

For our loan we used Handshake Plus personal loan program that includes the Promissory Note, Payment Plan, and an Optional Demand Clause as well as the Repayment Management program that includes Monthly Payment Processing, Online Account Access, and Year-End Reports

total cost for the service was $199 up front and a $9 monthly servicing fee for the repayment management plan. A most worthy investment to secure a low-interest, debt consolidation loan and, more importantly, ensure the continuity of our friendship.

If you are a Deliberate Creator moving towards financial freedom, becoming debt-free may be an important first step on the journey. Because the Universe is able to arrange for things to happen much more effectively than you can, you never know how your intention of becoming debt-free and creating financial freedom may unfold. If you unexpectedly get an offer from a friend or family member to assist you,
Circle Lending (aff)
is a powerful tool.

Testing a New Theme – Feedback Welcome

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I’ve been sitting on this three-column version of the Regulus theme for a few weeks. I got the idea and the basic theme files from Bertil Gralvik. I’ve been putting in some tweaks and tonight I got motivated to bring it over to my live blog. I’m still working out a few kinks, but I’d love to get some feedback, especially from those of you who have been reading for a while. What do you think? I won’t ask more specific questions, but rather leave it up to you to share your impressions.

Thanks.

Photographs and Memories

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I just read a wonderful comment from Linda on the For Perfectionists Only…Not post. In the post I mention William Stafford, and Linda, who was a student of his at Lewis and Clark college, shares a lovely personal story about him and his down-to-earth humility and kindness. She also shared this interesting fact about Stafford:

Something else I haven’t seen written about him: he was also a photographer. He brought a camera to class and took photos of his students’ faces, which he had printed and posted all over the walls of his campus office. It was those photos, he said, that helped him to remember his students’ names and faces years later, as he did mine when I heard one of his last readings in 1992.

This comment brought back a memory of my grandfather’s medical office. We were there to pack up his things after he passed away. He had been a general practitioner for thirty years or more, in a low-income section of Boston.

He had a camera – I forget the make – that used 35mm film but took half-frame shots. He took photographs of all his patients, had contact prints made from the film and taped the images to his office walls.

There were hundreds of these tiny images on the walls. He organized them by family. It was amazing to look at the images and see all the families he was treating. There were loads of three generation families, and I’m pretty sure there was at least one family that he treated four generations.

I wonder if, like William Stafford, this was how he remembered his patients’ names and faces. Or could it be that he was offering his patients a moment or two of “fame” when they got their picture on his wall.?

Split Testing for Personal Growth

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If you’ve done any in-depth marketing, especially Internet Marketing, you have probably heard of, if not utilized the concept of split testing. Split testing allows you to track, analyze and continuously improve marketing campaigns through ongoing, incremental changes to a specific element of the campaign.

If you were split testing a landing page for your website you would have two (or more) pages that were identical except for one element. For instance, you might change the headline and test to see which page has a higher conversion rate. Once you have an accurate assessment you remove the loser and replace it with a new page with a different change and test again.

Split testing is an extremely simple, but powerful technique for continuously improving your web site’s performance.

But this concept of split testing can be applied to virtually any dynamic process including personal growth.

By testing one incremental change in your life and tracking the results you can determine if this change is positive or negative. For example if you currently eat a vegetarian diet and want to see how eating chicken will affect you, add chicken to your diet. But, you must make that one change only, and you must make the change for long enough to have statistically accurate data. (See the entry Too Many Personal Growth Variables for more on this).

Of course statistically accurate data is a bit subjective when it comes to personal growth. But here are some guidelines:

Clarify your baseline: In order to know if these changes are positive, negative or have little or no effect on you, you must know where you are starting. So before you begin any personal growth split testing, do an initial self-assessment. You can be as formal or informal as you like. But do take some time to write your honest impressions about your present baseline state. The most important thing is to get an overall sense of your state of well-being: This can be as simple as taking a snapshot of physical, emotional, psychological and spiritual states and giving yourself an overall rank on a scale of 1-10.

If you want to be more formal about the assessment process, Coachville has an extensive list of self-assessment tools and Martin Seligman’s Authentic Happiness site has some useful assessment tools for tracking your psychological/emotional state.)

Track the change through known cycles: You should track your results through at least one round of known cycles. If you’re female that definitely means tracking it through at least one full menstrual cycle. And for men, we have cycles too. If you know that you tend to have a week feeling really good and then a week feeling just ok, make sure you track the change through at least one of those cycles.

Be consistent during the tracking period: If you’re going to add chicken to your diet, be clear about how much and how often, i.e. 6 ounces twice a week, and be consistent with that frequency. If you’re going to see how exercising five-days a week affects you, make sure you exercise five-days a week during the test period to get an accurate result.

Don’t intentionally make other changes to your life: To the extent that you can control change…do not make additional changes to your life during the trial period. It you are adding chicken to your diet, do not also increase your exercise. If you did, it would be difficult to know which change contributed to the results. In some cases, adding two, or more changes at once could actually cancel each other out.

Take into account external factors beyond your control: There certainly are events that are outside of our control. If some major event occurs in or around your life during the trial period, recognize that it may have an effect on your life. If necessary, extend the trial to get better data.

Once you feel you have tracked the change long enough and have statistically accurate data, you can analyze that data and make a determination if the change you were testing has a net positive result for you. A net positive result means that the positive effects in and on your life outweigh any negative effects.

To continue with the chicken example, after you’ve tracked the test through at least one round of your natural cycles, you should be pretty clear whether this change improves your vitality, diminishes it, or has very little effect on it.

Do an overall well-being assessment: Again, taking into consideration your physical, emotional, psychological and spiritual states, where are you on a scale of 1-10.

If you’ve used more formal assessment tools, now is the time to compare notes. Where has the quality of your life improved? By how much? Where has the quality of your life decreased? By how much?

Even if you don’t do a formal pre- and post-test assessment, you will know if the change has been positive, negative or neutral. The ultimate assessment tools will be your intuition and your feelings.

Once you decide to make the tested a change a permanent part of your life or to drop it, you can repeat the process with a new test.

If you use this split testing process on a consistent basis you can implement at least six to ten personal growth improvements each year. And while the effects of each improvement, alone, may be minimal, the combined effect on your life at the end of the year will be significant.

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