The Art of Letting Go

The last 30-days have been a whirlwind of travel and trauma and interesting growth opportunities. Beginning with the death of my uncle in early September on through the two-plus-weeks of solo dad time while my wife was in Nashville with her father, and ending with Ella and I flying down to Nashville to join Melissa for her father’s funeral this has also been a time for practicing the art of letting go. And it has shown me quite clearly that I have a ways to go before I can claim any kind of mastery of this art.I’ve got a few posts in my drafts folder that will explore some of the more blatant ways in which I was unable to let go. But I am happy to say that there is one area in which I was able to let go with a minimal amount of kicking and screaming. This blog. When Melissa went down to Nashville this last time, and especially when we were all down there for the funeral, I realized that attempting to keep up with my intended schedule of at least one post each day was unrealistic.

Being a single dad for those two weeks, while teaching two classes, seeing my private coaching clients and holding down the fort at home was quite enough. And while I did manage to get a few posts out, I was also able to give myself a break during that time. The last thing I want is for this blog to become a chore or something that I resent.

One of the most wonderful developments I have noticed with the increased posting frequency, is how much I am enjoying this writing. I definitely do not want to put pressure on myself to get a post out everyday and end up feeling frustrated and overwhelmed and resentful of this project. Another blog-related opportunity to practice the art of letting go came up at the end of September when my hosting service got attacked by hackers and my blog was down for more than 48-hours. It happened to coincide with the Carnival of Healing edition that I hosted last month, so there was a fair amount of traffic coming into the blog during that time. Everyone who came to the site got an error page.If you’ve been reading Evolving Times for the last couple of months, you know that I’m intending to double the visitors to this site each month until I reach 1 million unique visitors per month. Well having my server go down at the end of the month as I was watching the visitor count climb closer and closer to the doubling point was incredibly frustrating. I got caught up in the numbers game watching the hours tick with my site still down. (Watch for a post in the next few days entitled Set Your Intention but Don’t Keep Score, for a more specific look at this topic).

After a few hours – yes hours! – exploring the Hostgator forum and some frustrating communication with the tech folks over there (Note that this issue was not their fault, and I feel like they handled the situation very well) I realized I just needed to let it go. There was nothing I could do. And so I did. I relaxed into a deep breath of letting go and allowed myself to trust that everything was working out exactly as it was meant to…even if I couldn’t figure out the reasons at that moment.

The bottom line: Letting go is so much more pleasant than not letting go. Getting into a tug-o-war with the Universe is never a good idea. You’re just going to end up with a bunch of rope burns on your hands lying face down in the mud puddle in the middle.

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