How long does it take you to shift from your adult, serious, side to your playful, inner child mode?More and more I’m discovering that one of the most powerful tools for personal growth and success is my ability to embrace and engage my playful, inner child space quickly and consistently.
I don’t know about you, but I can be awfully serious a lot of the time. And even when I consciously give myself permission to let go of that seriousness, it can take a bit of coaxing to relax down into the playful, spontaneous, childlike space that is so natural and yet can be so difficult to hold.
But it’s that space, that vibration of spontaneous creativity that allows us to tap into the infinite possibilities of the Universe. It is that energy of playfulness and joy that fuels the inspired actions that allow us to attract our deepest desires.
But most of us are almost completely disconnected from that creative energy.
And, while I’m a pretty fun guy (no not a mushroom!) and love to play, this weekend I got to experience just how long it takes me to REALLY drop down fully into that playful, creative, childlike vibration.
My daughter and I went camping this weekend with a few other families from her kindergarten class. We spent the weekend playing in the dunes north of Bodega Bay and I can trace the “downshifts” that moved me out of my serious, adult mind and into the playful, spontaneous, childlike vibration.
When we first arrived I was, of course, all business: Where are we camping? Where’s the best tent site? Set up the tent. Unpack the car… etc. It’s pretty amazing how my Virgo nature comes out, big time, when I first roll into a campground!
Fortunately, some other families were heading down to the beach just as we arrived and Ella tagged along with them while I got our campsite set up.
My first downshift came when I walked to the beach after setting up our site. All the way down to the beach I was in “Go” mode, walking fast and feeling like I was “supposed” to get down there to play with Ella. But the moment I walked across the boardwalk bridge and stood at the top of the dune looking down on the ocean and the beach and felt the wind coming off the water, I felt the first downshift.It’s quite difficult to stay in “go” mode when you’re at the beach. There is something hypnotic and mesmerizing about the ocean, and only the most die-hard do-ers can resist the ocean’s invitation to drop into a more relaxed vibration.
And the best part is that this invitation is available all the time: You don’t have to actually be at the ocean to access it.
Take a moment, right now, to imagine the sound of the waves, the smell of the salty air, the feel of the moisture on your face as the ocean wind swirls it around you. Take a deep breath and let yourself accept the invitation to downshift your vibration and come into resonance with the energy of the ocean.
Imagination is such a powerful tool for manifesting the life of your dreams. And you can improve your imagination just by using it! Take time to imagine that you are at the ocean, or the mountains, or the forest or wherever you feel most energized and connected!
My next downshift came after dinner. The kids were playing a game where the beautiful, exposed roots of an old pine tree growing out of the dunes was the “jail” and the roots of a smaller tree across the dunes was the “base” where you could “escape” to.
At first, just the children were playing while the adults sat, in the “jail” and talked about adult things. But, one by one, the fathers started joining in. You could see them get a little twinkle in their eyes… thinking about it, catching some of that contagious, playful, childlike energy. And then, suddenly, as they let go of their concerns about what they might look like or whether it was “ok” to play with the kids, they would burst out of the “jail” with a shout of joy as a pack of kids started chasing them around the dunes.
Soon almost all of the “dada’s” were running around the dunes, acting like children, letting our playful, inner beings come out. And, quite honestly, I think the dads were having more fun than the kids! It happens that way. Kids play all the time. It’s their natural state. Dads… not so much! So when we do get out of our serious, responsible, mode the fun that’s been stuck inside starts coming out… big time!
Now, in addition to being a second downshift for me, when I jumped in and started running around the sand like a crazy, escapee, that game in the dunes really shifted the energy for our entire group. You could feel the group energy relax into playfulness. It was like a big sigh of relief as we let go of our collective responsibilities and allowed ourselves to drop into the playful spontaneity of the present moment.
And that, of course, that led us all back over to the campfire for S’mores. And, it’s pretty hard to be serious while you’re making s’mores! Well, unless you get into a serious discussion of the BEST way to make them… You know, do you let the marshmallow catch on fire and then blow it out, or do you hold it just above the burn zone so that it gets lightly browned? Do you melt the chocolate or let the toasted marshmallow do the melting? And this time we had a new twist added to the mix: Someone brought a jar of Nutella which… while not traditional, certainly did make a very good s’more when spread on the graham cracker in place of the chocolate bar!
The final downshift came after s’mores when we broke out our instruments and started playing music around the campfire. It brought me back to my days at summer camp on Cape Cod. There is something so universally appealing about playing music around a campfire. The crackling fire, the sparks, or “fire fairies” as Ella calls them, the soft glowing light on the faces, and the music filling the camp, rising up to the sky like an offering of joy and love.
And, as with the ocean, this energy is available to you all the time. You don’t have to wait until you’re at a campfire. Take a deep breath in and imagine the fire. Imagine the flames dancing and crackling. See the “fire fairies” as they rise up and dance in the smoke. Smell the smoke. And yes, even feel the smoke burning your eyes a little. And connect with the energy of the fire. That fire energy lives inside of you.
Connect with it. Feel it. Embrace it. Let it come out to play. Let it fuel your actions. That fire is the inspiration that empowers your actions. When you take actions that are fueled by your fire you accelerate the manifestation process.
Action without inspiration is like a lighter without fluid: You might get a few sparks, but no matter how often or how vigorously you click that button, you’re not going to get a flame.
There is so much power in connecting with our childlike nature (not childish, childlike!). Yet we often allow our thoughts of how we “should” to act and who we are “supposed to” be get in the way and hold us back from connecting with that vibration.
Taking time, each day to consciously, actively, let that “inner child” come out to play can provide tremendous fuel and inspiration as you manifest your deepest desires!
This week, let your inner child come out to play. Do something that is absolutely NOT on the agenda of your adult, serious, responsible self. Indulge the playful, spontaneous, fiery, mischievous little one inside of you.
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Every writer always has lots of pages that they don’t like, that they throw away. The same with every great artist. All you see is the fine works of artists. But you would be surprised how many sketches they throw away before they select that which they wish to exhibit. So really, art is the ability to learn how to delineate images of different kinds. And the only way to learn that is through practice.
Those are the words of Jacque Fresco, author, artist, inventor and visionary. And he’s going to be teaching you how to draw on a free live webcast on Monday, December 3rd.
I watched the video (below) and was amazed at the insights he had about art, talent, practice, and more. Even if you’re not interested in learning to draw, you will learn a lot from watching the 14-minute video.
You can sign up for the webcast here. When you get to the page, be sure to scroll down a few entries to check out the before and after drawings from the “world’s 2nd worst artist!”
And this is what Mark Joyner, the creator of Simpleology, has to say about this 91 year old “Superhuman.”
At 91, he works harder than anyone I’ve ever met, has a razor-sharp mind, and is still inventing, writing, and drawing every single day – just about non-stop…
While I’m busy designing systems that will move people along the path toward a brighter future, Jacque has spent more time actually designing what that future itself will look like.
“This is great,” you may think, “but what does this have to do with ‘The Simple Science of Getting What You Want?‘”
First, on a personal level Jacque exemplifies everything that we talk about in Simpleology 101 and the Simpleology print book.
If you’re younger than 91 and are using your age to prevent you from living your life fully, it’s now official: it’s time to knock that off.
Next, not only is Jacque a doer on a historic scale, he’s also a genius teacher.
For example, he has a unique method for teaching anyone how to draw within just a few short lessons.
My post yesterday explaining why I disagree with Steve Pavlina on the topic of Polarity has certainly gotten my creative juices flowing! In this post I want to explore the optimal state that occurs at the Centerpoint on the Continuum of Energetic Directionality. If you have not read I disagree with Steve Pavlina on the topic of Polarity” yesterday’s post, you might want to do that first.
Yesterday’s post explored the concept of energetic directionality. Our energetic system is in a dynamic, constantly shifting state, sometimes flowing more energy out to the universe, other times receiving more energy from the universe. But while there may be more energy flowing in one direction, the flow can never be just one-way: There is always energy flowing in and flowing out.
As I was meditating this morning, I realized why Steve’s concept of polarity feels wrong to me. It’s because so many of our optimal, peak experiences as humans occur at the centerpoint of the continuum. Peak experiences happen when our outflowing energy and our inflowing energy are in balance. Here are some examples.
Creative expression: The ultimate space of creativity is when we are in a perfect state of balance between inflowing creative inspiration and outflowing creative expression. When there is no doubt or hesitation, no inner critic getting in the way, and we allow creativity to move into and through us unimpeded. This is the centerpoint.
Sexuality: Sex, and especially energetic sexual practices including Tantric and Taoist techniques can create a centerpoint experience. In these practices there are specific techniques aimed at amplifying the outward flow of energy to your partner or increasing your ability to receive energy from your partner. But the ultimate state is one of balance and unity where the energy flow is so balanced that you achieve complete harmony with your partner.
Pushing Hands in the martial arts: If you have practiced a martial art you have probably engaged in some form of pushing hands. In this exercise you connect with a partner and, using one or both hands, push back and forth in a specific pattern. The idea is not to overpower your partner but to constantly gage his or her level of output and match that output exactly. At the novice level this exercise is mostly one of physical strength and balance. But at more advanced levels this exercise becomes a much more energetic endeavor. You learn to “listen” to your partners energy in such a way that you can instantly respond to changes in his or energy output. This level of instantaneous awareness and response requires you to be at the centerpoint.
I believe that while the process of manifestation will take us through many cycles along the continuum of energetic directionality, ultimately, the optimal place of manifestation is the centerpoint.
So use the concept of energetic directionality to empower specific steps on the path of manifestation. But also be on the lookout for those moments of flow and unity and synchronicity that occur at the centerpoint.
I would love to hear from you. What are your thoughts on Polarity vs. Continuum? When have you experienced the centerpoint? How are you going to incorporate the concept of energetic directionality into your manifesting process?
Leave a comment below and share your thoughts.
Accepting all I’ve done and said
I want to stand and stare again
Til there’s nothing left out,
It remains there in your eyes
Whatever comes and goes
I will hear your silent call
I will touch this tender wall
Til I know I’m home again.
This past weekend, when my wife and I were up in Gualala for a quick overnight getaway, I saw a bumper sticker that said, “Caution: Singing Driver. I loved it! It reminded me of how much I love to sing in the car when I’m alone and how long it’s been since I’ve really blasted out some tunes.
This morning, on the way home from dropping off my wife and daughter at the airport for their visit to Mimi and Pop-pop, I had a chance to let loose with some good tunes.
Peter Gabriel’s “In Your Eyes,” the special mix live version, happened to be in the tape player. And if you haven’t heard that version, I highly recommend it. I was singing along with Peter, Paula and everyone else. I could feel the power of the positive, creative energy they generated when they recorded that song. It was palpable, both in their performances and in the response of the crowd.
As I sang along, with a beaming smile and tears running down my cheeks, so moved by the energy I felt flowing into and through me, I was reminded of a question that a student in my 12-week Law of Attraction course posed on the first night of class. After the guided visualization that connected her so deeply to her joy, she wondered how she could hold that level of intense joy, joy that threatens to bubble up and out of her through tears or other expressions.
At the time I wondered, a bit playfully, back to her and the entire class, why that would be such a bad thing. To feel joy so intensely that tears come would mean that, as Abraham says, you are pretty “tapped in, tuned in and turned on.”
Too bad it is that we don’t feel comfortable at the prospect of walking around all the time with tears of joy and a big smile on our faces. What would our neighbors and co-workers and family think of us? They’d probably consider us loony and have us hauled away to the funny farm. (Hmm interesting name!)Â
When I picture the mystical poet Rumi, it’s not too much of a stretch to imagine him walking around with tears of joy constantly flowing down his face. Jesus, too, I can imagine having extended moments of overflowing expressions of joy.
And while I’m not quite ready to call in 24/7 tears of joy, I am open to allowing many more experiences and expressions of joy into my life!
What brings you to tears? What awakens such a profound sense of joy that you can’t help but allow the tears to flow?
For me it is music that harmonizes with my essence, my daughter’s exuberant “dada!” as I walk in the door, a visit from a hummingbird just when I feel lost and disconnected from my joy, the story of a student sharing a newly remembered connection to their joy. These moments connect me to my joy. Yes, the joy threatens to and often does overflow into tears. And that’s just fine with me!
Last week, on a lovely walk along the Laguna path with my friend and colleague Suzanne Murray, we wandered onto the topic of perfectionism. She admitted to being a “recovering perfectionist,” having recently discovered that she could settle for excellence instead. And while I have made a similar shift from hardline perfectionism to compassionate excellence, I constantly battle the powerful allure of perfectionism.
Suzanne mentioned the poet and teacher William Stafford who is recognized as one of the most prolific poets of recent times. For the last twenty or more years of his life he wrote at least one poem every day. And, to the dismay of his students at Lewis and Clark University, he assigned the same task. I can just imagine the groans and complaints that must have followed that announcement. But when the students asked how it could be done or insisted that it was impossible, he replied simply, “Lower your standards.”
“Lower my standards?” The thought of lowering my standards flies in the very face of my beloved and comfortable perfectionism. If I’m going to put something out in the world it had better be perfect. And, as far as my inner perfectionist is concerned, nothing will ever be perfect! And that, my friends, is the problem.
But see, there’s a key component to Stafford’s assignment that my inner perfectionist doesn’t quite get. Stafford never told his students to, publish a poem a day. He told them only to write a poem a day, which is exactly what he did.
I bet if we were to look at some of his daily poems – the ones that did not get published – we would agree that many of them, perhaps most, were not so good. I’m sure he would agree with us as well. But when you write a poem a day, you’ve got a lot to choose from. And out of those daily poems he found enough good ones to publish more than 50 books, one of which – Traveling Through the Dark – won the National Book Award for poetry. He was also awarded a Guggenheim Fellowship, a National Endowment for the Arts Fellowship and held the post which is now called the Poet Laureate of the United States.
Clearly there is something to this idea of “lowering your standards.”
Do you want to know how many “unfinished” essays, stories, newsletter articles and other stuff I have stashed away on my hard drive? I bet you do! But I’m not going to tell you. Suffice it to say that by lowering my standards, not a whole heck of a lot, I could have been publishing 2-3 newsletters each month instead of one, plus articles, books and who knows what else!
What would happen if I lowered my standards just a bit? What if I took out these essays, gave them a final (quick) revision and posted them online? What if one person happened upon one of them and it turned out to be exactly the thing he or she needed to hear at that moment? Is it worth it? Is it worth the risk that I might publish an article that stinks? Is it worth it to risk posting an article that isn’t perfect? Is it worth lowering my standards? Even if I can reach just one person, you bet it is!
And what about you? What “articles” do you have sitting on your hard drive? What creation of yours is waiting to see the light of day because it is not yet “perfect?” What if you lowered your standards? Just a tiny bit. Just enough to finish it and get it out into the world.
Here’s my commitment to you: I’m lowering my standards. I’m going to start writing a lot more, and publishing a lot more of what I write. Some of it will be crap. And some of it won’t.
When you read something that’s crap, feel free to let me know. And when you read something that’s not, feel free to let me know that too. And who knows, you may just find a kernel in something crappy that really works for you, a bit of insight buried in the not-so-eloquent stuff that helps you take the next step in your life. Remember, one person’s crap is another person’s fertilizer!
And now here’s my hope and my challenge to you: Can you lower your standards? Just a bit? Can you look through your hard drive, or your closet or workshop? Can you dust off your chisels or brushes, get our your business plan or novel and reawaken your creative dreams? Can you lower your standards just enough to get those creations, those ideas, those dreams that are waiting inside of you, out into the light?
If you find yourself stuck in the process, wondering if it’s perfect enough, remember this line from the last poem William Stafford wrote on August 28, 1993, the day that he died, “Be ready for what God sends.”
Indeed, be ready for what god sends, and be willing to let it come through you and out into the light.