Raw Food and the Human Energy Systems

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I had the honor of speaking at Monday Night Live last week. This enlightening series, organized and hosted by Shea Lynn Baird and held at the amazing Cafe Gratitude in Healdsburg is a wonderful way to learn more about healthy eating, raw and living foods, holistic health, conscious business and more!

For my talk I chose to explore the relationship between raw food and the human energy systems, something I have become increasingly intrigued with as I eat more raw food. I have been exploring the Human Energy Systems for over 10-years, but the impact of my diet on my energy systems is not something I had actively considered until Shea asked me to speak at Monday Night live.

If you are interested in how the food you eat affects your energy systems, I’ve included a preview of my Monday Night Live talk here. To view the entire recording, go sign up for Shea’s Monday Night Live email list. You’ll not only get to watch my video, but you’ll also get access to the entire archive of all the Monday Night Live speakers!

A Stroke Of Inspiring Proportions

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Just watched a truly inspiring video from the TED Talks. Jill Bolte Taylor, a neuroanatomist, awoke one morning to discover she was having a stroke. Her insights and enlightenment (truly) will change the way you view your world and yourself.

I HIGHLY recommend watching this 18-minute video!

FYI: If you identified yourself as a Highly Sensitive Person after reading 22 Signs That You’re A Highly Sensitive Person, you’ll particularly resonate with Jill’s description of how it felt when she was coming “back to reality.”



If, after watching this video,you’re interested in learning about tools that will help you spend more of your time in that connected, right hemisphere space Jill talks about, download the free report:

Energetics of Attraction: Understanding and Applying the Harmonics of Human Awareness to Create the Life You Desire.



22 Signs That You’re A Highly Sensitive Person

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For most of my life I considered myself a fairly thick-skinned, typical guy. Sensitive male role models were hard to find growing up in the seventies in a middle-class Boston suburb. Back then “sensitivity” was not a trait encouraged in men. So I followed in the footsteps of the male role models I had; mostly stoic, emotionally unavailable, intellectually focused men.

That worked for a while. But at some point during the past 18 or so years that I have been actively and sometimes intensively engaged in personal growth, I have discovered that behind the walls and under the layers of distance and detachment lives a highly sensitive person.

This awakening sensitivity has, at times, felt more like a burden than a blessing. But ultimately, and only quite recently, I have come to accept my sensitivity as a gift and a powerful ally on my journey of personal evolution.

When I began this journey, the term Highly Sensitive Person was not widely known (if at all). But as more has been written about Highly Sensitive People and the concept has gained wider (though certainly not universal) acceptance I have come to recognize and accept myself as a Highly Sensitive Person.

It is estimated that 20% of the human population would test positive for what Carl Jung called Innate Sensitiveness. This innate sensitivity has been well researched and the term Highly Sensitive Person was coined in 1996 by Elaine N. Aron, Ph.D. and explored in her book, The Highly Sensitive Person: How To Thrive When The World Overwhelms You

 

Wikipedia has this definition of Highly Sensitive Person:

A highly sensitive person (HSP) is a person having the innate trait of high sensitivity (or innate sensitiveness as Carl Gustav Jung originally coined it). According to Elaine N. Aron and colleagues as well as other researchers, highly sensitive people, which would represent about a fifth of the population, process sensory data much more deeply and thoroughly due to a biological difference in their nervous systems. This is a specific trait with key consequences that in the past has often been confused with innate shyness, inhibitedness, innate fearfulness, introversion, and so on. The existence of the trait of innate sensitivity was demonstrated using a test that was shown to have both internal and external validity.

While the idea of highly sensitive people is still shrugged off by the mainstream press and health-care community, I have no doubt that, just as people have different levels of visual acuity, hearing, intelligence and physical grace, there are also varying levels of what I call vibrational sensitivity.

No matter what any scientist tells you, there is no diagnostic device presently available that is as sensitive as the human body. When properly tuned, our physical bodies have the ability to perceive and respond to our environment with an accuracy that far exceeds the capacity of our present technology. And some of us have bodies that are naturally tuned to be more sensitive to our vibrational environment.

So, for better or worse, that puts highly sensitive people in the unenviable position of being the canaries in the coalmine. Our sensitivity to the aural, environmental, and vibrational pollution that is prevalent in our world means that we often display physical, emotional and vibrational symptoms long before others less sensitive than us.

That’s the bad news.

But fear not, there is good news! If you are a highly sensitive person, your sensitivity indicates that your body is more highly tuned than most people’s. And, with a bit of effort, training and regular practice, you can learn to leverage your sensitivity to create success and take your life to the next level. I have! More on that later.

For now, let’s look at some of the “symptoms” of highly sensitive people because, if you’re like I was, you might not even know that you’re highly sensitive. And when you don’t know that you’re highly sensitive it can be very difficult and uncomfortable to live in this world filled with less sensitive people who don’t understand why you have to cover your ears when an ambulance goes by, or leave a restaurant that smells like bleach, or sit under a full-spectrum light during the winter.

So if you have ever wondered if you are highly sensitive, here is a list of signs that could indicate that you are a Highly Sensitive Person. (I’ve added some personal notes to a few of the items on the list).

1. Can you hear things others cannot, especially high-pitched sounds?
Do you hear sirens long before anyone else? Does the high-pitched hum of a partially dimmed light fixture get under your skin when no one else seems to notice? Does the whirring fan in your computer distract you? Is it difficult for you to sleep in the same room as a refrigerator? Do you need to cover your ears when a loud siren passes by? Do you use earplugs at concerts or on planes?

2. Do you notice smells that others miss?
I have a weird olfactory sense: When it comes to nice, natural smells such as roses and lilacs, I have to put my nose right into the flower in order to smell it. But when it comes to not-so-nice smells I am highly attuned. I can smell cigarette smoke from 50-feet away when I’m outside and the wind is blowing in the opposite direction. When I walk into a restaurant that has just cleaned up with chlorine bleach, I often have to turn around a leave because the smell is overpowering. And don’t get me started on some of the unnatural perfumes that have nearly made me… well I think you get the idea!

3. Do you know what other people need before they ask?
This post, Intuition or Observation & Analysis, provides a great example of this.

4. Do you notice the flicker on older computer screens or older fluorescent fixtures?
I’m still amazed at how often I used to sit down at someone else’s computer and wonder how they were able to work on it with the refresh rate set so low. If they were not looking over my shoulder I would usually go in and quickly increase the refresh rate which took away the flicker and provided me with some relief.

5. Do you get “overwhelmed” by joy when you experience great beauty: A beautiful sunset, an incredible musical performance, the smile of your child?
High vibrational sensitivity is not always triggered by “negative” experiences. Positive, beautiful, sublime experiences can also awaken that sensitivity. But again, the difference and occasionally the difficulty for sensitive people is the intensity of the experience. Highly sensitive people can be truly overwhelmed by a beautiful experience, which is fine if you are alone on the beach watching a spectacular sunset, but may not be so great if you happen to look out the window at work just at the peak moment of that beautiful sunset.

6. Do you feel threatened or uneasy in large crowds or big cities?
Sometimes I enjoy going into San Francisco, and other times I just can’t wait to get out. But no matter how I’m feeling while I’m there, I always notice a distinct sense of calmness descending upon me as I leave the City. It’s as if I’m passing through an invisible energy boundary as I cross the Golden Gate Bridge.

7. Do you have “emotional radar” that picks up on what others are feeling?
Do you know what people are feeling before they tell you? Do you ever walk into a room and sense that there has been an argument?

8. Do you pick up physical symptoms from other people?
Have you ever been feeling great and then run into a friend who had a headache and suddenly noticed a headache coming on? I once massaged a friend’s knee after she tweaked it during a yoga class. When I was done, she felt great, but I could hardly walk!

9. Does reading or hearing about bad news have a dramatic impact on your mood?
Once upon a time I was a news and information junkie. Knowing what was happening in the world was important. As my sensitivity awakened, however, I began to recognize that the news is almost exclusively low-vibration information and had a dramatic and usually negative impact on me. A few years ago I did a week long news fast to see if it would make a difference. It did! Soon after that, I stopped watching, listening to or reading the news on a regular basis. And while I still don’t watch or listen to the news, I am now able to read the paper or gather snippets of news from the Internet without noticing a dramatic effect on my mood.

10. If you see a bad car accident does it affect you for the entire day?
Most people have a reaction when seeing an accident but for some highly sensitive people the effect can be dramatic and long lasting.

11. Have you been diagnosed with SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder) and/or do you experience a noticeable drop in your energy and mood during the winter?

12. Have you ever had a transcendent or mystical experience?
Highly sensitive people are naturally more open to experiences of bliss, ecstasy and spiritual awakening.

13. Do you have a strong reaction when you drink caffeine or when you attempt to stop?
Everything we put into our bodies has both a physical and energetic effect. For most people the physical effects of caffeine are not that dramatic. But sensitive people also feel the energetic effects of that caffeine and the combination can be quite powerful.

14. Do you have food sensitivities or allergies?
Most of us are putting stuff into our bodies that was never meant to go there. This is fine for people who are not highly sensitive (not really!) but if you are highly sensitive your body may tell you, in no uncertain terms, what you can and cannot put into it.

15. Do you have allergies or asthma?
As with food allergies, environmental allergies can indicate that you are reacting to allergens on both a physical and energetic level.

16. Are you a “lightweight?”
A friend of mine used to say that I could “get drunk from sniffing the bottlecap!” And she wasn’t that far off. My karate buddies nicknamed me Ed “No Mas” Mills because of my tendency to get a little rambunctious after a couple of beers. If one glass of wine puts you under the table you might be highly sensitive.

17. Are you sensitive to over-the-counter, prescribed or illegal drugs?
Can you take half the recommended dosage of a drug and experience a noticeable effect? Have you had an overwhelming experience when experimenting with other drugs?

18. If you have ever had surgery, did it take longer to recover from the effects of the anesthesia than from the surgery itself?
For many sensitive people anesthesia can have a long-lasting and powerful effect. Anesthesia impacts not only the physical body but also the energy body by putting you into a completely unnatural state. It’s a neither here nor there state that can wreak havoc on a sensitive person’s system.

19. Is being in a calm, peaceful environment very important for you?
Does clutter, stress you out? Do harsh, disharmonious colors fluster you? Do you feel at peace in a beautiful garden? Is it important for you to create a “sanctuary” within your home?

20. Do you get claustrophobic when you spend too much time indoors?
For many sensitive people, being inside for too long leads to a feeling of claustrophobia, lethargy and/or irritation.

21. Is it important for you to spend time alone?
Highly sensitive people often feel better when alone. In extreme cases, this need to be alone can be debilitating to the point where being around others is almost impossible.

22. Do you experience dramatic mood swings, sometimes for no apparent reason?
Have you ever been sitting at work, or on the bus, or in a café, feeling pretty good, and suddenly, for no apparent reason, started to feel sad, or angry? Highly sensitive people are more sensitive to both their own emotional content as well as the emotions of those around them. So if this happens to you, you may be connecting with something happening inside of you, but you might also be unintentionally “tuning in” to the emotional content of someone else.

23. Do you know when people are lying to you?
Have you ever just known that someone is telling you a lie, even when you have no “logical” reason to believe that to be so?

There are no right or wrong answers to these questions. These are examples of possible “symptoms” of high sensitivity. If ten or more of these experiences rang true for you, it’s highly likely that you’re a highly sensitive person. But even if you said “Yes” to just a handful of these you could be highly sensitive. In fact, even just one or two of these, if they are very strong for you, could indicate high sensitivity.

Ultimately I believe that being a highly sensitive person is a gift. It certainly has become a gift to me! And, yes, I know, it does not always feel that way. It can feel like a burden and a curse. But when you learn how to put boundaries and systems into place you can begin to access and harness that sensitivity and use it to create the life you desire.

I’ll be writing about some of those systems in the next few weeks. So be sure to come back or, better yet, subscribe to Evolving Times to get notified when there is a new post here.

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Have You Seen Randy Pausch’s “Last Lecture?”

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Just a quick head’s up in case you haven’t seen this video from Randy Pausch. Randy is a professor at Carnegie Mellon University where the professor’s have a tradition of giving their “last lecture:” the lecture they would give if they were dying. Well for Randy, this is not just an exercise. Randy is dying of cancer.

He gave this lecture on How to Achieve Your Childhood Dreams

I could tell you more about it, but I think I’ll leave it to Randy. However, I will encourage you to spend the full 11 1/2 minutes watching this first video all the way through to the end. There are some truly powerful insights at the end.

Here’s the 12-minute “cliff”s notes version of the lecture he gave on the Oprah show recently:

And here is the full lecture he presented at Carnegie Mellon. This one is over an hour.


Note To Doctors: It’s Time For An Attitude Adjustment

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[Author’s Note] I need to begin with two disclaimers.

First, I freely admit that I am not a big fan of the conventional medical system. In fact, I have a fairly significant charge around it. And I recognize that, from a Law of Attraction perspective, as long as I continue to have that charge, I will continue to attract examples of why I believe the system is fatally flawed.

And second, I do recognize that there are many positive examples and shining lights in the field: doctors who have broken the mold and stepped out of the Standard Operating Procedures. To all of you who are out there, you have my deepest appreciation and I ask that you forgive me for lumping you in with the rest of the crew!

[End author’s note]

Ok. I admit it. I’m a bit irritated at the moment. I’ve settle down a bit since I wrote the first draft of this article last week.

On Wednesday, my wife and I took Ella to her first visit with one of the doctor’s who comes into the clinic where she receives physical and occupational therapy for her hemiparesis.

We didn’t get off to a great start when we were told that the doctor was running about 40-minutes behind schedule. That type of delay, standard operating procedure for far too many doctors, immediately sets a tone of disrespect and creates a hierarchy of power.

Once we (mostly I!) got over the initial frustration, we made the best of the time, reading with Ella and catching up on some family business.

When we were finally called into the exam room everything seemed fine at first. The doctor was friendly and playful with Ella. The other practitioners in the room – a nurse, Ella’s occupational therapist, and the clinic’s head therapist – were extremely friendly and helpful and all seemed to be going well.

But then, somewhere in the process, the doctor got on a roll. He began spewing out terminology that would have been over the heads of most normal parents. Fortunately, we’re not “normal” My wife is a naturopathic doctor and I am pretty obsessive about researching the latest information about hemiparesis, so the terminology did not phase us. But it was clearly, if unconsciously, meant to disempower us and to put him into a position of superiority.

His monologue continued, seemingly without a break for a breath. The more he talked, the more I felt placed in a box based on his experience and perceptions.

He told us that, as parents, we would naturally pamper Ella and cater to her disability (his word, not ours!).

He told us that as Ella grew up the other kids in school would make fun of her (he explained that kids were mean and that he had been the “fat boy” in school. Personal issues perhaps?).

Somewhere in his spewing he managed to point out that the most important thing was not whether Ella will ever have full use of her left hand, but rather whether who she really is shines through. If he had stopped talking long enough to really look at Ella, he would have seen her light shining out like a beacon. But he didn’t stop. He kept on going.

He told us that Ella would have problems doing this and that.

He told us that Ella would have this physical thing happen and that happen and other stuff happen. All based on his experience and perceptions.

He never stopped to find out who we are and how we are addressing this situation. He never paused to ask us if we had questions. He never opened his eyes to see any of us as unique individuals rather than as cookies cut out of the mold he has been “treating” for all of his many years.

And finally, my patience broke. I have a certain degree of tolerance for people putting me in a box. But I’m not going to let a doctor put my daughter into a box because his experience tells him that she is destined for a certain outcome.

So I stopped him. And I let him know that I didn’t appreciate him putting us into his nice, neat little box. I told him that he didn’t know us, and he hadn’t taken the time to find out about us. I let him know that he had been talking TO us not WITH us.

Based on his reaction I would guess this was probably the first time that anyone has challenged him in this way. The only way to describe his reaction is to say that he started pouting.

He cut me off and walked over to Ella to complete her examination and when he was done he walked out of the room without another word to us.

Does your doctor put you into a box or are you really seen for who you are? Are you treated like a cookie cut out of a mold or is your uniqueness recognizes? Do you feel empowered or disempowered by the contacts you have with the medical profession?

Leave your thoughts in the comments below.

Pilates: Build Strength Increase Awareness and Gain Energy

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I’ve been working out at our local Pilates studio for about 3 months. (Thanks to Mark Joyner for recommending Pilates in Simpleology 103 as one of the best ways to increase core strength and personal energy).

One of the things that I enjoy about Pilates is that it is far more than just a “pushing weights” type of exercise. With Pilates you have to be fully present with your workout. The machines don’t do the work for you. Each exercise and every movement requires your full awareness.

There have been times when my trainer literally asks me to be aware of 5 or more different things all at once: Contract your abs, neutral spine, relax your shoulders and neck, breath into the back of your ribs…

Not only do I get an incredible workout but the entire process is helping me to achieve a much higher level of physical body awareness than I had before.

Perhaps the most immediately beneficial new awareness I have gained is noticing when I am contracting my neck and shoulders when I don’t need to be.

During my workouts I’m amazed at how often I catch myself (my trainer catches me even more!) with contracted neck and shoulder muscles while performing a low-body exercise. My neck and shoulders are not actively participating, so there is no reason for them to be tight.

By tensing muscles that are not involved in the activity I am expending (wasting) the energy that it takes to contract those muscles.

This awareness has transferred to the rest of my life. Now, when I am typing, I usually notice pretty quickly if I am tensing my neck and shoulders. I notice when my head is shifting forward. I notice when my core has gone soft and I’m slouching down.

All of these contribute to a more energy efficient body. And as I conserve more energy through the use of the powerful core muscles, proper body alignment and relaxing unused muscle groups, I notice that I have more energy available throughout the day.

If you’re looking for a workout that enhances your awareness and increases your energy along with strengthening your body, consider Pilates.

Our Home Feels A Bit Empty This Morning

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Our cat, Rasta, moved on from this physical world Sunday evening. It was not a surprise. She had been fading for the past few months, and in the last week it became clear that she was moving out of this physical world.

The swirl of emotions that Rasta’s passing has stirred up in me has been a bit surprising. In less than 48 hours I have run the spectrum from sadness and guilt all the way up to relief and joy. It’s amazing that such a small creature can have such a large impact.

Even though my wife had found her, abandoned and scared, a few months before we met, Rasta was really my cat. I remember the first time I visited Melissa in Phoenix and Rasta would barely take a step inside the house. By the time I left, she was actually letting me pet her for a few minutes before scampering outside again.

Over the course of the next few months, as my relationship with Melissa deepened, so did my connection with Rasta. And as she discovered that she could trust us, her true, deeply loving nature came out. She would sit in our laps, purring or sleeping, while we watched movies or talked on the couch.

Watching Rasta settle back into a space of trust and love was highly rewarding, although I sense that she never quite returned to the same level of trust that she probably had with her first family.

As I write this, I realize that Rasta’s abandonment and my adoption may have created a special bond between us, one that engendered trust and a deep connection.

And then Ella came along. It’s been said that when a child joins a family the pets take a back seat. And as I look back on the past 3 ½ years, this is where my sense of guilt and regret comes in.

I realize that I did abandon Rasta. Not by leaving her behind when we moved, or forgetting to feed her, but by dramatically decreasing the attention and love that I showed her after the arrival of my daughter.

Admittedly, it would have been much easier to continue nurturing Rasta if she had been a bit less reactive. From the time that Ella was born, Rasta expressed her displeasure with the situation by constantly peeing in Ella’s room, becoming increasingly more finicky about what she would eat, and just generally being aloof.

As I look back I can see that we got ourselves into a cycle of disconnection. My attention shifted to Ella. Rasta reacted by peeing in Ella’s room. I got upset and disconnected further. Rasta became more aloof. And on it went.

It’s not so different from the patterns of protection that we create in our relationships with other humans!

But that doesn’t make it any easier to recognize that I could have broken the cycle by reconnecting with Rasta. I did try, but it never seemed to be enough for Rasta and, with the added responsibility of fatherhood, I just could not create enough time to make it enough for her. If I went to Rasta’s corner and sat down to love on her, she would often get up and walk away, almost defiantly daring me to follow her.

So in the last few days of her life, when she could do nothing more than make weak little mewing sounds and roll over where she was laying, it felt good to reconnect with her. I would lay there with her and scratch her head and neck. And she would push her head into my fingers, moving her head to help me find just the right spot.

It felt as if we were both remembering the love that had connected us in the beginning. Rasta no longer had the energy to put up her walls and resist my affection. And I made the time to lay there on the floor and reconnect.

In the end, Rasta passed quietly and peacefully on her own. I was upstairs, putting Ella to bed (ironically).

Rasta

Here is Rasta “playing” with one of Ella’s toys. She discovered that she could push on the buttons and make them talk or play music. I swear she knew which one was the cat button and pushed it more than the others. I don’t think I ever heard her push the dog button. But that could have been a coincidence!

Law Of Attraction Carnival Delayed 1 Week

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If you’re a regular reader of the Law of Attraction Carnival you may have noticed that it did not get published this past Tuesday. You may also have noticed that in my Monday Motivation I did NOT included an intention to publish the carnival on time this week. I did that on purpose.

On Tuesday I drove from Sonoma County down here to LA where I am attending the Peak Potentials 5-day Train The Trainer Certification program. And on Monday, I could tell that there was a good chance that, even with lots of positive thinking, feeling and vibrating and loads of vitamins and supplements, I would not be able to avoid the cold/flu that had gone through my wife and daughter last week.

And, indeed, as I drove down here, I could feel my body moving deeper into that physical expression of resistance that we call “sick.”

It’s been quite an interesting experience observing and playing with the different levels of presence that I can bring to the seminar. I’ll have much more to share with you about that in the next few days.

But the key thing I’ve learned is that no matter how “positive” and “up” you are emotionally and energetically, a seminar that goes from 9:00 am – midnight every day is a bit too much for a body finding its way back into a state of well-being.

And the last thing I want to do is add another stress point – publishing the carnival.

So look for the Law of Attraction Carnival next Tuesday. And then I’ll update the following carnival dates to reflect the change.

And on another blog-related note, here’s a big thank you to all of you who have left comments in the last few days. Please don’t take my lack of response as a sign of disrespect. Again, I am focused on managing my time and energy so that I can help my body move back into its natural state of well-being.

Monday Motivation For April 9th

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Well I just have one goal for this week that I want to be held accountable for, and it’s really for today. Here it is:

I will make it through today with my sanity and health fully intact!  

May not sound like much to you, but it’s a big one for me. You see, I’m leaving tomorrow morning at 5:00 to drive to LA for the Train The Trainer course with Peak Potentials.

Under normal circumstances, I’d have a bunch of last-minute stuff to do before leaving. And today is not normal. Both my wife and daughter have been sick, so I had a couple of big chunks taken out of my work week last week.

And when I get back from LA I jump right into the next full-day meeting of the Enlightened Entrepreneurs Intensive on Wednesday and the full-day, brand new Law of Attraction Live Seminar here in Santa Rosa on the Saturday, April 21st.

Fortunately, I’ve got a great team that’s helping me put on the new seminar, so I’m feeling confident that every thing will get done. And, at the same time, there are a few things that I just absolutely have to do myself.

And then there’s the sickness piece. Have you ever tried maintaining wellness when the rest of your family is sick? It’s doable, but difficult.

I’m doing everything I can to stay well. I’m doing all the attraction stuff: Thinking a nd feeling healthy and positive. And I’m doing all the physical stuff: taking echinacea, lots of vitamin C, and other good stuff.

I’ve got a little tickle in my throat, which you might notice if you tune into today’s Law of Attraction Live show. So I’m thinking, “tickle, haha,” instead of “tickl, cough cough!”

So that’s it. If I can get through today feeling at least as well as I feel now, I’ve made my goal. If not, one reader on the most recent comments list will get $100!

Now, how’d I do with last week’s Monday Motivation? Pretty good!

Gotta Get Goals is posted.

Five things my grandchildren will say to me is posted.

The final version of the flyer is heading to the printer in the next hour. I had a final-enough version ready for Saturday’s drop in Law of Attraction group.

The decision has been made on CD packaging options.

I have chosen the song to perform at Train the Trainer; A great gospel version of This Little Light Of Mine.

Sorry, no $100 for you this week.

Does God Feel Sad When She Sees Us Struggling?

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Last week, when I dropped Ella off at pre-school, there was a letter in her cubby from the Adapted Physical Education Teacher. She had done an assessment of Ella’s gross motor skills to track the progress she is making with her delayed left side. The assessment listed her progress in specific skill areas and gave an overall “ranking.”

At 39-months Ella’s gross motor skills are at a 21-month level. While I am well aware of Ella’s physical delay and have read various assessments in the past, there was something about this one that caused a deep sadness to well up from within me.

For some reason, I was particularly struck by the description of Ella’s jumping skills. The contrast between my perception of Ella’s attempts to jump – adorable, focused, vibrant – and the clinical terms used in the assessment – “Ella is unable to jump off the ground at this time, but she is showing emergence of this skill.” – struck me right in the heart and the tears began to flow.

I have witnessed this deep sadness in other parents and I know that I have at times been the source of this sadness for my own parents. This sadness, however, is not limited to parents of children with disabilities. It is the deep sadness that comes from watching your child – or anyone you love – struggle. It is a sadness and sense of helplessness that comes from the desire to make everything all right for your child when there is nothing that you can do.

As I drove towards my office, heart broken open, I began to wonder how God/Source/The Universe feels when she/he/it sees us struggling and living far below our potential.

It has been postulated that most of us are accessing and utilizing a mere 5-10% of our potential. If God were to have an assessment done on any of us we would certainly fall well below the “baseline” level of our potential.

Does God cry when seeing this?

My guess is no. God doesn’t strike me as one who gets caught in the trap of attachment. I believe that God sees through our struggles and into our essence. God sees our light, our full potential, shining brightly even when we don’t see it ourselves. God knows that our struggles provide the most potent opportunities to explore our self-created limitations and expand our expression of who we are.

God doesn’t get caught up in wondering what he can do to make it better. He knows that everything is perfect. Including each and every one of us!

God doesn’t wonder if she made a mistake when she created these beings (us) with limitless potential only to see them floundering to access even a tiny fraction of their power. She knows that it is through our struggles that we will, eventually, access our limitless potential.

There are times, quite often, actually, when I hold that Divine perception of Ella and see the incredible light that shines from her eyes: When I watch the intensity that she brings to her playing and learning. When I see her struggling to do things that her peers do easily. When I feel the uninhibited tenderness as she sits with me in the rocking chair and lays her head on my chest. When she gets frustrated and says, “Need help Dada,” and I encourage her to try it again. I even can hold the Divine perception of her (usually) in those moments when she connects fully with her frustration and sadness and expresses it freely.

In those moments, when I see her light, her full potential, I don’t get caught up in thinking that she is less than perfect, less than whole. I don’t look at her as a number on a scale or compare her with anyone else. I don’t wonder if I did anything “wrong” or if I somehow contributed to her disability.

But when I read that assessment, I could not stop myself from going to that place of wondering, of attachment, of deep sadness that Ella is not accessing her full potential. I got caught up in the clinical rankings and began comparing Ella and basing my perception of her on that comparison.

This experience reminded me just how tenuous our hold is on Divine perception. Our ability to see the full potential within everyone is easily shaken by our perception of the “real” physical world.

As we make our way up the vibrational scale of the Law of Attraction and move forward on our path of personal evolution, the consistency with which we hold others in the place of Divine perception can provide a valuable feedback mechanism.

Begin to pay attention to the place from which you are perceiving those around you. Are you focusing on their light or their darkness? Are you seeing their perfection or their problems? Are you appreciating their presence in your life or blaming them for what is wrong with your life?

The choice of how you perceive those around you is not always easy but it is always yours to make.

Remember that what you focus on expands in your life. If you focus on the darkness in those around you, you attract more darkness into your life. If you focus on people’s problems, you attract more problems into your own life.

If you want more joy in your life, focus on the joy you see in others. If you want more peace, focus on the peace you see in others.

I know that Ella is getting the best possible care for her condition and I recognize that she will continue to be assessed and evaluated. And while I don’t agree with the underlying concept of assessment, I accept that it is part of the system within which Ella will receive her care.

What I do know is that I will continue to hold as fully as possible onto my Divine perception of Ella. I will continue to see her perfection, her light and the joy she brings to this world. And I will hold onto the knowledge that her physical struggle is providing a powerful opportunity for her to expand her perception and expression of who she truly is.

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